I'm finally out of the closet,  as a "Metrosexual"...............

Tonight is the first time I've ever heard this term to describe a guy!

I was at the Oriented event tonight and was chatting with some friends.  It just so happens that I was wearing a Pink T-shirt.  So a friend asked why am I wearing a pink t-shirt?  "isn't that kinda gay?"  So I respond that its trendy to wear pink this season.  All of a sudden, I get these weird looks...Seems like they were kinda shocked that I actually know what colors are IN for the season. 

So one of my friends say that I am a "Metrosexual"...  I was kinda offended at first, not quite too sure what that term actually meant.  She said it means a guy who is in tune with his feminine side, but is not gay.

Hmm...this puzzled me alot...so I decided to come home and Google the term.  Much to my surprise, there was quite alot of info on this phenomenon. 

Here is what the proper definition of a "Metrosexual"

"metrosexual (met.roh.SEK.shoo.ul) n. An urban male with a strong aesthetic sense who spends a great deal of time and money on his appearance and lifestyle."

Hmm...seem to kinda sound like me...so after further research, I found some other insightful definitions:

-A straight, urban male eager to embrace and /or show off his feminine side, especially when it comes to pricy haircuts, designer suits, and skin care products.
-Tricky word for a guy who is actually straight, but everyone thinks he's gay because he is very much in touch with his feminine side.
-A heterosexual man who is very much in touch with his feminine side, and is not scared to show it. He can appreciate upscale things like Gucci bags, Prada wallets, etc.

They claim David Beckham is the Icon of the "Metrosexual"

At this point, I'm starting to think maybe I am a "Metrosexual"!!! 

Ok maybe I do appreciate the finer things in life; occasionally get expensive haircuts, wear designer clothes, strange obsession with shoes (I have more shoes than some woman) , buy designer underwear, care about my appearance, go to gym and take yoga,  try to have good manners and drive a Mini Cooper (which my friend claims its the ultimate icon of a Metrosexual)..All this from just wearing a pink t-shirt tonight!!!

Later, I found a online "Are You a Metrosexual Test" and here are my results:

I AM 77% METROSEXUAL! Well, aren’t I fancy? Mr. Fancy Pants! People think I am very stylish and gay. They may be right on both counts. But don’t mind them, the ladies love me, and so do I! Take the METROSEXUAL test at Fuali.com

This is why my name is Mini Cooper Tony 

Six Degrees of Separation

I've noticed that living in Taiwan, the ABC community is extremely small...The six degrees is actually only about three degrees.  Its amazing if you just ask around always is a friend of a friend's friend.  Ultimately, we're all interconnected...

A good way to find out how well ur connected is by Friendster. 

I think my Personal Trainer has a grudge against me...

He is working me to death at the gym...He would even call me the day before to make sure I was coming.    I ran, lifted, pulled, ran again...pretty much worked every muscle in my body.  He just kept on pushing and pushing... He probably thinks my body is as fit as his, with those muscles busting out.  He says its all good for me..to push me to the limit.

I think he has some kind of secret hatred for me...

Nerd Heaven

I was in Taipei's Gwan Hwa Market today.  For those of you who don't know, its the nerd central of Taipei.  Here you can find everything imaginable that is related to computers, gadgets, electronics...(basically anything that runs on electricity)

I'm always fascinated and amazed at the stuff u can buy and the people shopping there.  I realized that Taiwanese kids are extremely knowledgeable in technology...From CPU, chipset, motherboard, graphics, etc etc.  Seems like everyone of them is a electronic engineer...Amazing!!! 

Taipei isn't so bad....

Sometimes I gripe about living here in Taiwan, but once in awhile, I feel like this is such a marvelous city with lots of beauty if you look deeper (sometimes need to look really really deep) .

Here are some really beautiful shots of Taipei city at night

I received a excellent article on relationships that has helped me resolve some issues with friends.

On Relationships
- Author unknown

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you... the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar or alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?
1)Communication
2)Intimacy
3)A sense of humor
4)Sharing household tasks
5)Some getaway time without business or children
6)Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call,a touch, a note)
7)Sharing common goals and interests
8)Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
9)Giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as "resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain will replace the passion."
Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal. Work like you don't need money. Love like you've never been hurt. And dance like no one's watching.

 
Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss events.
Small minds discuss people.
Even smaller minds discuss themselves

I've been reading a relationship book called "Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus".  This book is somewhat interesting and has shed some light on how each of the opposite sex reacts to different situations

Basically, if we can consider men and women are from completely different planets, then we begin to accept each other's differences and become more understanding thus having better interaction.  Its seem like a simple concept to understand.  I think in some ways, it has helped be understand some of the mistakes I've made in the past and learn to try to avoid repeating the same mistakes in future relationships. 

But one question is left on my mind....if men and women are from different planets?  Why are we all here on this planet torturing each other?

If life's giving you roses, don't look for the thorns. You know they're there, but can't you just appreciate the gesture?

My friend Ginny, who just moved back to Seattle just bought a new car.  It's a very slick ride.   Near mint condition Oriental Blue BMW 323i. 

Sigh...I miss the States...u can get nice cars without having to pay a arm and a leg.  Everyone I know there seem to be driving something nice and has a pretty decent standard of living.  Kinda makes u wonder "what the hell am I doing here in Taiwan" 

I even had brief dreams of moving back to LA when I was visiting and even had my car all picked out....  Check it out .... DROOOLLLL

Well.....I guess its my new challenge now to work harder to be able to afford that car here in Taiwan, even though its like 2X the price here than in the US. 

When the heck is the WTO thing going to make cars cheaper here???

What a strange experience last night.

I parked the car on the side of a street, all of a sudden a woman starts frantically pounding on my car window.  I rolled my windows down and she says that she was just mugged by some thug on a motorcycle. 

I was thinking of chasing after the guy, but then I think he was long gone...So I can only help her by calling the cops.  It was actually pretty amazing that the cops actually showed up in just a few minutes..Kinda put a bit of faith back into Taiwan cops.

Anyways, I even tried to help her by getting her to call credit card companies to report the theft. 

So she went with the cops to report the crime and I went home. 

After about a hour or so.  The cops call me, he said that the robbery was not real.  She had a fight with her boyfriend and he pretended to be a robber to try to scare her.  So it was all a matter of domestic dispute. 

Can u believe this?  What kinda world are we living in nowadays when ur own boyfriend tries to scare his girlfriend by stealing her bag in the street.  What a crazy world we live in now.

 

Today I am feeling very healthy.
 
Went to Hollywood Fitness and had a great workout.  I am setting myself on a 3 month plan to get fit and get rid of the gut.  Hopefully to add a bit of muscle also.
 
But its amazing how many buff chinese people there are in the gym..all those fitness instructors...  They really motivate u because u realize how flabby u really are compared to them.
 
OK...just give me 3 Months!!!
 
 
 
 

Great!!! Just got back to Taipei from LA...I'm mentally prepared to make a whole new start...


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